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New Family Court online service
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The Family Court of Australia, in partnership with the Federal Magistrates Court and the Family Court of Western Australia, has developed an innovative service called File Search.
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WORKING OUT THE LAW
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Understanding what the law requires is critical in taking responsibility for the decisions you make about picking a lawyer and instructing that lawyer. This section includes a glossary of terms, links to relevant Government websites, support sites, legal forms and fees as a starting point. Make sure you take a look at the legal divorce articles as well.
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Family Law Reform
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The Family Law Reform aims to introduce sensible reforms to the workings of the Family Law Act and its courts in Australia.
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Dual Nationals On Divorce
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Government information on marriage, divorce, child custody and international child abduction issues for Dual Nationals.
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LET'S KEEP THE MARRIAGE TOGETHER
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Reconciliation and working on keeping the marriage together is often the best answer for everyone involved. Consider all the alternatives before you separate.
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FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS ONLINE
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Family Relationships Online is a key component in Government support for building better family relationships. It provides all families (whether together or separated) with information and advice about family relationship issues. Free Advice line 1800 050 321.
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Government's plan to save marriages
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Latest news headline about how the Federal Governments Family Relationship Centres are focusing on helping couples save their marriages. Counselling courses across the 65 centres to be launched this year will see government support to families in trouble.
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WHAT SHOULD I DEAL WITH FIRST?
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Everyone's situation is different but the most common question is, where do I turn to first? You are never alone in your journey and there is always information and help available no matter where your location.
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PRESENTATION ON DEALING WITH SEPARATION
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A presentation on dealing with separation by the Raising Children Network which is the Australian parenting website. This presentation was developed by the Child Support Agency (CSA) with the help of The Learning Group.
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MY FAMILY IS SEPARATING. WHAT DO I DO NOW?
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This Family Law Courts brochure provides general information about the social and legal effects of separation. It also brings together information about the services provided by the family courts and other government and community agencies.
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MANAGING MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY EX
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Working alongside your ex-partner using Dispute Resolution Techniques such as Counselling and Mediation are important in both understanding the obstacles that may lie ahead and working effectively to make the best decisions for all involved, whether that be reconciliation or divorce.
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Relationships Australia 1300 364 277
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Relationships Australia is an organisation that offers resources to couples, individuals and families to help enhance and support relationships. They are also a proud supporter of i-dont.com.au.
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Relationships Online
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Relationship Help Online. Begining to work with your partner to resolve things or to learn to deal effectively apart, can begin with professional counselling. Online Counselling is perhaps something to consider.
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DEALING WITH THE EMOTIONS OF DIVORCE
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It is important to look after the inner you during this time, helping yourself deal as best you can. This section includes a growing list of support links for both men and women across topics of self esteem, dealing with emotions, changes in life and all the rest.
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Mens Health And Wellbeing Online
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The Australian Federation of Men's Health & Wellbeing Associations Inc. is dedicated to improving the health and wellbeing of men and boys, and to create a better world for all.
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Dads In Distress
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A support group whose concern is to stem the present trend of male suicide to the trauma of divorce/separation.
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Beyond Blue
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Beyondblue is a national, independent, not-for-profit organisation working to address issues associated with depression, anxiety and related substance misuse disorders in Australia.
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Seniors Support
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Government Community support website for seniors in Australia.
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CHILD CUSTODY ISSUES
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The child custody debate is a major concern for separating couples with children. Find a range of relevant links and information to keep you up to date with the latest news in this area.
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The National Welfare Rights Network
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The National Welfare Rights Network (NWRN) is a network of community legal centres throughout Australia which specialise in Social Security law and its administration by Centrelink. Make sure you check out the factsheet about Relationship, Separation and Social Security.
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THE GENERAL SECTION FOR PARENTS
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Separation and divorce is life for many parents and their children. It is a reality today and one that can be managed positively. This section includes a glossary of parental terms as well as a growing list of support links for parents and for children.
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Kids book for dealing with divorce
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10-year-old Libby Rees wrote a self-help guide to help her deal with her parents' divorce. The book is called Help, Hope and Happiness, published by Aultbea Publishing based in Scotland.
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Child Support Agency
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You do have many options open to you. Please go to this Government site for information.
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Singleparentbible.com.au
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An online glossy magazine for single parents packed full of enlightening editorial, competitions, budgeting ideas, help lines and much much more.
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Kidslife.com.au
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Thousands of articles relating to parenting and kids. Trying to make life easier for everyone involved.
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Dads N Kids
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A collection of links created for divorced and separated fathers in Australia and their kids.
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hugurkids.com
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Information and resources relating to Parentally Abducted Children, be it locally or Internationally.
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Lone Fathers Association
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Lone Fathers Association was established to meet an ever increasing need in the community for support for men, women and children during and subsequent to the time of marriage breakdown, divorce, child access, child support and other family law problems.
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EMPLOYMENT CHANGE THROUGH DIVORCE
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When your relationship situation changes often there is the need or want to find a new or better job, to reenter the workforce after a number of years and even to become reskilled and educated in something new and exciting.
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Centrelink
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If you are planning to or have recently separated or divorced, Centrelink ( an agency of the Australian Department of Human Services) can help you with a variety of information.
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Jobsearch
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Australian JobSearch (AJS) is an Australian government initiative providing a new way for job seekers to search for a job. It's aim is to give all job seekers the best possible access to the biggest choice of jobs.
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The Australian Workplace
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The Australian Workplace provides access to online services and information, guiding you to employment information, government assistance, jobs, careers, training, working conditions and Indigenous Employment Centres.
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Working Women's Centres
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There are Working Women's Centres in Queensland, South Australia, the Northern Territory and Tasmania. The Centres provide information, support, advocacy and advice to women on work-related issues.
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Seek
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One of Australia's largest employment search website. The internet is always a good place to start and Seek has many job options to consider.
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Career One
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Another employment website worth searching on to find different opportunities for new and improved employment.
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MANAGING FINANCES THROUGH DIVORCE
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Staying informed about your financial obligations and rights is imperative to dealing effectively with the now and the future. This section includes a glossary of financial terms and links to financial areas that may need your attention.
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ASFA, The Voice Of Super
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Visit the Super Guru section of this site to find out about what happens to your and your ex's superannuation when you breakup. Search down the left hand side of the site.
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Public Sector Superannuation Scheme
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For those involved with the Australian Public Sector Superannuation Scheme here is the Family Law and your super section including frequently asked questions on this topic.
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Womens Money
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Focused on providing financial information for women.
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MANAGING MY HEALTH THROUGH DIVORCE
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A range of links to assist people with their health and wellbeing. Relationship change can be the start of a new life and a new perspective on health and wellbeing. You deserve to feel your very best.
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Nature of Change - Positive Psychology
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Positive Psychology focuses on the study of such things as positive emotions and strengths-based character development. A series of simple mental exercises that can be learnt off the internet and practiced at home.
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DepressioNet.com.au
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depressioNet provides a comprehensive online resource for Australians living with depression and our families and friends to come for information, help & support.
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The Better Health Channel
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This website provides online consumer focused health and medical information. All information is quality-assured, reliable and regularly reviewed.
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DEALING WITH DIVORCE AS A CHILD
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This is a section for children of divorce. Here you can find relevant links to help you understanding what is happening with your parents separation and divorce.
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Kids Helpline - 1800 55 1800
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Kids Help Line is Australia's only free, confidential and anonymous, 24-hour telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged between five and 18.
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Reach Out
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Reach Out! is a web-based initiative of the Inspire Foundation (www.inspire.org.au). The mission of the Inspire Foundation is to create opportunities for young people to help themselves and help others.
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The Source
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The source website is developed and maintained by the Department of Family and Community Services for the benefit of kids between the ages of 12 to 25 to get involved with their community and to help them make good decisions for their futures .
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WORKING WITH NEW LIVING ARRANGEMENTS
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Once the decision to separate has been made, finding somewhere new to live is one of the practical challenges you will face. Changing address details, staying with friends, getting set up again and being independent in a new sense is all part of this transition in your life.
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Changing Your Address Details
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All the small, practical things need to be dealt with when separating. It is best to get the new contact details handled as soon as possible. Focusing on the practical issues can often help you deal with the often difficult emotional rollercoaster of separation.
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Short /Long Term Accomodation Options
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Try searching online for short term, shared or single accomodation on either a short term or long term arrangement. Turning a negative situation into a positive can result in new experiences that you might otherwise would never have had.
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Getting Set Up
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Whether under a rental agreement or simply buying from scratch, it can be time effective, affordable and sensible to buy a relocation set up package that is designed to provide you with everything you will require to build a new comfortable pad of your own.
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Storage Options
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Storing items while you are in a transition stage is often a good idea, allowing you to think about what the best next move might be for you and your family.
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Finances and Property Settlements
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The financial issues associated with relationship separation and divorce need to be properly managed. No one wants unnecessary costs and financial losses. Feel free to read from this growing range of financial articles.
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Divorce Cakes
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Forget about the traditional Wedding Cake, Now we have a new FAD.....The divorce cake.....
Have a look here at some of the submissions.
If you have one yourself send it to us and we will include it in this section.
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NEW RELATIONSHIPS
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There is a lot more to dating again than you might first think, especially if you've been out of the game for a while. Here are a growing selection of articles to get you ready for the dating scene. You can even send us an article that you would like us to publish, perhaps about a positive or a humourous outcome.
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ATTRACTING a new love after divorce
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Della Cory , the owner of Young At Heart Introduction Service has over 15 years experience with divorced ad widowed people. Here is some of the things her clients tell her
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Repartnering following relationship breakdown
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At some point following the breakdown of a marriage or long-term de facto relationship, the issue of whether or not to embark on another partnership is bound to arise. What factors are likely to influence men and women in their decision to remain single or to repartner? Drawing on data from Institute’s Australian Family Life Course Study, this article examines the socio-demographic characteristics of men and women who have indicated a clear desire either to seek out a new partner or to remain unattached.
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Handling divorced parents on your wedding day
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Please insert descriptionIf your parents are divorced, there are areas which need very careful handling when you come to plan your wedding. Read a useful first hand experience article by Jill Curtis on this topic.
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Meeting the kids of the dad you are dating.
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When dating someone with children it seems right to the kids as soon as possible, but this is when problems can occur. The reality of involving them in your relationship can be too much for some.
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Seven Keys Tips To Attract The One You Want!
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Seven keys tips for the divorced or recently separated who are willing to give love a go again. They are by no means all inclusive but they will give you an insight into attracting the right people into your life.
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Very Helpful tips and help re Divorce
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The legal side of separation and divorce can appear complex and confusing. To protect yourself it makes sense to read up on what is relevant to you. Here are a growing range of articles and divorce tips that might help clarify your situation.
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Making it legal: From seperation to Divorce
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The law in Australia simply provides one ground for divorce – the “irretrievable breakdown” of marriage. In general terms, this means that your marriage has come to an end and there is no real possibility of reconciliation between you and your partner......
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Ten Tips for Divorcing Couples
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From the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. While this is an American article it is still so relevent to Australia.
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Separation & Divorce
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The Family Law Act 1975 radically reformed federal laws concerning divorce. Previously there were 14 grounds for obtaining a divorce. Now the only ground is the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage. Read more from Aussie Legal
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Pre Nupital Agreements
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Pre nuptial agreements are literally agreements made between parties prior to their marriage. Read more from Aussie Legal.
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Superannuation Splitting Laws
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Under the superannuation splitting laws, superannuation interests are treated as property for the purposes of property settlement on marriage breakdown. Find out more from Aussie Legal
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CHILD CUSTODY AND CHILD SUPPORT
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There are over 760,000 people in Australia effected by child support. Major changes to the system are also to be introduced in 2008. Read more in this section.
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Child Abduction Overseas
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Recent media coverage of the alleged abduction of two young children from Sydney by their father, and, their mother’s use of mercenaries to retrieve the girls from Lebanon has highlighted limitations on the legal processes available to parents who want their children returned.
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Community Support Links
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This website is worth visiting. Primary areas contained in this site are: Camp Connect: Child Support: Child Support Agency: Basic Child Support Calculator: CSA Community Services directory: Family Assistance Office: Family Law Online and many more ...
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Child Custody - Residence
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Residence was once called custody. Residence deals with who the child is to reside or live with. Read more on this topic.
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SHARED PARENTING
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There are many different aspects to the new shared parenting laws that are now in force. The process of parenting is difficult enough, you need to minimise any negative effects on your children. Here are a growing range of parenting-specific articles to help you.
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Relocating Children
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Is it possible to relocate my children given the current changes to the Family Law Act 1975
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All kids are effected by divorce
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It is a sad fact, but a true one, that today all our children are being touched by the shadow of divorce. Even if they are not among the growing number of families split apart by divorce, they will be influenced indirectly. They will know children whose parents divorce. Read more in this article.
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NEW Research on shared parenting
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Your views are wanted for research about shared parenting. Intervews conducted April May 2007. Please assist this valuable research.
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Shared Parenting. What does it mean?
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On July 1 2006 the Shared Parental Responsibility changes to the Family Law Act became law. Previously it was assumed that one parent would have residence.
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Shared parenting. Is this an ideal?
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The proposed overhaul of the family law system will be happening very shortly and separating parents should get legal advice about your rights and obligations now.
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Step Families
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It is important to remember that a step-family, however good it might be, can never be the same as the original family by Aussie Legal.
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Contact Changeovers
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Making change over less stressful by Leonie Brasier from Yarra Legal in VIC.
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Decision to Divorce
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Everyone is different and will make their decision based on the balance of circumstances they are faced with. The following is not advising you one way or the other it is designed to assist you in asking the right questions of yourself before jumping into the decision.
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DEALING WITH YOURSELF AFTER DIVORCE
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Relationship separation and divorce can be a time of change and rediscovery. Learning about yourself and what makes you happy is key. Here are a growing range of 'Self Development' style articles to help.
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Un – happy Valentines Day
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A reflection on an important day in the relationship calendar. How does it relate to the newly separated?
Read this interesting article
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After an affair
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Take care of yourself when your partner has had an affair. Some advice from psychotherapist Carolyn Parfitt
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Life In The Rear View Mirror.
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Stephen Martin writes about the issues associated with looking in the rear view mirror of life? Life must be directed by looking backwards to get some idea how we should operate in the present and future.....
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How Can A Broken Heart Heal?
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To love is to put your heart at risk. It is only natural that inevitably we shall all experience a broken heart. Chances are most of us will have our heart broken several times. It is thus imperative that we learn how to assist the heart to heal once it has been broken.
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How to find the courage to try again?
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Stephen Martin is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with offices in San Francisco, USA and Sydney, Australia. He has 25 years experience as a marriage counsellor. He is past president of CAMFT, the largest association of marriage and family therapists in the world.
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Your Relationship Map
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Understanding the many different relationships we have, can allow us to put this transitional time in our lives into perspective. Relational Coaching use a Relationship Map to help you help yourself during this time.
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Coping With Divorce Anger
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Tracy Achen writes about how anger after separation or divorce is a natural part of the healing process. She discussed constructive ways of dealing with this anger.
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Healing After Divorce
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Healing after divorce involves rebuilding your life on your own terms. It’s exciting choosing your life’s direction and doing the things that you refrained from in order to please someone else.
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Dealing With Grief
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Dealing with grief is a tough subject to discuss openly. It is nevertheless one that effects many people during separation and divorce.
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RESOLVING DISPUTES
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Dispute Resolution Techniques are important to consider and understand during relationship separation and divorce. Here are a growing selection of articles to help.
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Becomming a life coach
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While going through the legal process I became aware that fear, anger, blame and frustration could be the driving forces in an already traumatic situation
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Is your relationship in trouble?
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Being in love brings with it many powerful emotions. We all know that magic feeling of falling in love. On the other hand the awareness of falling out of love is often a gradual process which can creep up on us. To find out more read this useful article.
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Litigation is not the way
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It is believed that most minor conflicts can be sorted out by mature adults, who are willing to consider the other person’s needs and interests.
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What is Mediation?
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A thorough explanation of the mediation process by Relationships Australia.
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Your Relationship Map
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Understanding the many different relationships we have, can allow us to put this transitional time in our lives into perspective. Relational Coaching use a Relationship Map to help you help yourself during this time.
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Managing Conflict
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How to effectively manage conflict in your life. Although written by Mensline Australia this article is relevant to both men and woman in dealing with trying times.
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BACK INTO THE WORKFORCE
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Finding the all important job after separation and divorce is an important step especially if you are re-entering the workforce after a long period of time. Preparing yourself for working again can be an enjoyable process and a rewarding experience.
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Parents Return To Work Program
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The Parents Returning to Work Program is a new initiative of the Victorian Government designed to assist parents prepare for re-entry into the workforce.
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BEING GRANDPARENTS AND FRIENDS
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Dealing with the effects of separation and divorce as a grandparent can be significant. Read from our growing range of articles that can help.
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Stepfamilies have special needs
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Article by Natalie Gately on stepfamilies and their special needs. There is also the opportunity to be part of a special survey about stepfamilies in Australia. Contact details for this survey are inside.
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Divorce and the extended family
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You know, and I know, of couples who have divorced. However, it is not until the chill wind of separation touches your own family that its full force is felt. Jill Curtis writes from personal experience about the effects of divorce on her family and how life moved forward successfully.
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Oh no, not a divorce in my family!
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We all know couples who have broken up, but it is when our own children tell us that their family is in trouble that the pain really hits. Jill Curtis writes a series of articles from personal experience about the effects of divorce on her family and how life moved forward successfully.
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Grandparents feel the hurt of divorce too
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Much has been written about the impact of divorce on the nuclear family, but let us spread our net wider to take in the grandparents. What is often not taken on board is that as the number of divorces increases, so do the number of ‘divorced’ grandparents.
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A family break up effects us all.
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A divorce in any family is a signal for us all to rally around. Because there are now more marital breakups it does not mean that each and everyone is in any way less painful. When any family is in the centre of a crisis, it is up to all of us to help in any way we can.
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Grandparents and the Children
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Some grandparents are assuming responsibility for the full-time care of their grandchildren. There are many services available that can provide support to cope with the changes that occur. Great document from the Queensland Govt Dep of Communities.
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EMOTIONS AND EXPECTATIONS
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Information provided by the StepFamily Association of Victoria on feelings that grandparents can experience as a result of their childrens separation or divorce. Some valuable tips are provided.
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HEALTH AND WELL BEING
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Having a healthy mind & body is essential to staying in control. Check out the growing range of articles that can help.
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Meditation, It helps
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After a separation or divorce it is easy to loose focus on who you really are. Meditating frequently can allow you to gain a deeper understanding of yourself through the observation of what occurs in your mind. You will find that you gain valuable insights into who you really are.
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Stress Management
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It's about realising you are human and letting go of the worry by Tracy Achen, WomansDivorce.com.
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Getting A Good Nights Sleep
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It's hard enough dealing with everything let alone not getting a good nights sleep, by Jennifer Jefferies ND, Life Balancing Expert.
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TRAVEL AND NEW DISCOVERIES
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After relationship separation or divorce it can be a time for new experiences, meeting new people and taking time out. Here are a growing selection of articles that may be of interest.
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CELEBRITY DIVORCE
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Divorce has no boundaries. They may be famous and have more money than most of us but they also go through the same experiencing we do and often heightened because of their celebrity status. Who is the latest celebrity to file for divorce?
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TAILORED FOR WOMEN
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Women react differently to men on many issues. Check out the growing range of articles specifically for women. You can even send us an article that you would like us to publish in this section.
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The marriage is finished but i'm not!
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The breakup of any relationship brings with it a host of issues which have to be faced sooner or later. The independent woman will always find a way to move onwards and upwards. Full article attached.
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Divorce Books For Women
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Books available through Amazon.com for women to help deal effectively with separation and divorce.
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NOT BROKEN, JUST REMODELED
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This article discussed the re-defining the concept of a 'broken home'. No longer broken but simply remodelled.
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TAILORED FOR MEN
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The effect that the end of a relationship can have on a man can be long lasting. Check out the growing range of articles that can help. You can even send us an article that you would like us to publish in this section.
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